If you’re reading this….You’re most likely a stalker.
Hello… my name is Jamie, and I am a stalker.
Your sweet little old Grandmother that comments on everything, but claims she can’t use the computer….is a STALKER!!!!!
You can bet your sweet ass, the amazing guy that somehow knows you love rainbows and kittens…..is a STALKER!!!!
Calm down, before you get out your pepper spray and rape whistle, let me tell you how I came to this realization.
A few weekends ago I was out-of-town watching a friend of mine play softball.
(Because I live in Kansas and we are hard up for entertainment.)
I had another friend coming to join me at the game so we could hang out and talk. She messages me, “which field are you at, there’s a bunch.” I reply with, ” I have no idea, I’m somewhere sort of close to the zoo.”
Next thing you know, she shows up. Pleasantly surprised, thinking I had given GREAT directions, I asked her how she found me. “Oh you have your location on, I just clicked on it in messenger, and it took me right to you.”
Cool! Right? Now I no longer have to worry about giving directions, which I suck at. I can just say, click my location. This is a great invention…..or is it?
Gone are the days where your significant other has to believe what you tell them. He or she can actually track where you are. Gone are the days kids could tell parents they are staying with one friend, and go out with another instead. Sorry kids, you are screwed. Your stalker parents can actually see on a map, where you are. (FYI parents should stalk kids, it’s a crazy world out there.) For those of us on the investigative side, that’s awesome. The question that begs to be asked, is………
How far is too far?
You might just say, hey no big deal, I will just turn my location off.
Here’s a thought guaranteed to give you the creeps: do you even realize your location is on?????
Are you sure that the sweet guy at the grocery store that is always so polite, who added you on Facebook, is really just a sweet harmless guy? Do you trust him to be able to see everything that is on your social media profile?
What about the girl from third grade that you had like one sleepover with? Are you sure that you want her knowing EXACTLY where your house is? Guess what? If you have ever talked to her on FB messenger, she just might know where you live.
I recently had a stalker scare of my own. Most of you who are my FB friends can probably guess the person I am referring to. Long story short, I watched the kid for a few months when I was just a kid myself. He added me on FB, and for the most part was pretty cool in the beginning. He liked my writing, always was giving me uplifting and encouraging input, he was a great “fanboy.”
The thing about putting all your business out there, is that people start thinking they have the right to judge it, and even a right to have some sort of say in what you are doing. My stalkerish (yeah I know that isn’t a word) friend started to think he had the right to not only tell me what I should be doing, but he also started being openly rude to other people who would comment on things. I deleted him a few times, and he would always promise to not get so weird.
Eventually I just had to block him completely after he threatened to come to my home uninvited. Guess what? He knew my address, because I had talked to him with my location on. Creepy….right? I basically had to threaten to talk to the police if he contacted me again, block him, and pray that he would just go away. So far, he has stayed away. He seemed perfectly normal at first. I even had a few friends that thought I was crazy for turning down a decent looking, seemingly normal man. He turned out to be the biggest creeper I have ever met, and you all know I have met some epic creepers.
Conspiracy theorists worry constantly about the government spying on our social media, our phone calls, our texts, our emails. I hate conspiracy theorists, but they do have one thing right. If someone adds me as a friend, within 5 minutes I can tell you what TV shows they watch, what they believe as far as religion and politics, and most likely I can even tell you who they are related to. If I can figure all that out, imagine what the government can do?
The truth is, President Obama probably doesn’t give a shit which taco truck you prefer to frequent. The CIA probably has no interest in how many boards you have on Pinterest, or what television shows you binge watch on Netflix. That information is there for the taking, however. All it takes, is one person with negative intentions, to use all the information available against you. The things we make public, even the most innocent of things, can leave us vulnerable to being hurt.
I have said before how predators can use dating sites to manipulate people by pretending to have the same interests, views, etc. They can easily use your information to find a way into your life, or even worse, your pants.
Isn’t Facebook pretty much the ultimate dating site? Even if you do meet someone on Match, or Plenty of Fish, or wherever, isn’t the next step to add them on FB so you can make sure you aren’t two years and a pathetic story away from being on “Catfish”?
If I really want to get to know someone, I don’t just ask them, I check out Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
What type of stuff are they posting? They say they are single, so why does Facebook say they are in a relationship? Even those of us with the best of intentions can find ourselves doing and saying some pretty stalkery stuff. (yes I am aware that stalkery isn’t a word either).
“Why the hell were you at KFC??? You don’t even eat chicken!”
“Why did you send me a good night text at 2 AM, from Brad’s house? Why were you acting like you were in bed when you were out partying?”
It’s very easy to use the internet, and location services for evil, instead of good. It’s easy to get caught up in bad behavior, even if you aren’t a bad person.
Like Spider-man had to learn the hard way……with great power comes great responsibility.
Even the most evil of people, can still appear completely innocent. Bad guys can wear good guy masks.
Dexter worked for the freaking police department!
(If you don’t know who Dexter is google it and binge watch it on Netflix….. you’re welcome.)